Friday, October 17, 2014

Discuss things with your kids

Take a few minutes each day to talk with your children.

1. Ask them about their day.
2. Listen to what they have to say.
3. Be interested - like you would with a friend.

As you make a conscious effort to do this daily, you will see your relationship with your children growing stronger.

Take time to discuss family problems with your kids.
1. Share the problem
2. Ask for solutions
3. Listen to their suggestions.
4. Try out some of their ideas.

You'll be surprised what great kids you have! That goes without saying because they belong to you!

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Confidence is Catching!

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Don’t you love to be around someone who is confident?  A confident person puts others at ease.  A confident person doesn’t sweat the small stuff.  A confident person is comfortable to be around.

A confident woman doesn't put others down.  She doesn't need to.  She isn't focused on herself.  She isn't conceited or snobby.  She feels good about herself, and she is fun to be with.

A confident woman accepts herself as she is.  She isn’t perfect and she knows it, but she is comfortable with herself.   A confident woman is beautiful, no matter what her size or shape is.  She is not afraid to be herself, and she gives you permission to be yourself.

Give the gift of confidence.  Get comfortable with who you are.  Accept your faults, your flaws, your beauty, your strengths, your weaknesses.

If you have daughters, sisters, nieces, granddaughters, teach them to be confident.  Show them how to be confident.   They want to be like you.

Come to the American Fork Library this Saturday from 3:30 to 5:30 and celebrate confidence, self-worth, and healthy body image with us.  Bring your daughters, your sisters, your nieces.  Bring your granddaughters—your  friends. 
Door prizes, live music, refreshments, and meet the authors and illustrators of from Head to Tummy and Some Secrets Hurt. Get your books signed.

It's never too early to help your child build a healthy body image.  Don’t miss it.

Confidence is Catching.  Pass it on.

Linda Garner

Monday, October 13, 2014

What are you Modeling?

Lately I've heard of younger and younger girls stressing out about their looks, their clothes, or the shape of their body.  Eating disorders are claiming younger victims.  Girls are learning to hate their bodies at an age when they barely know who they are.  How did this happen? 

It’s easy to blame the media, and there is good reason for that, but I am wondering if we might be missing something.  Here’s my question:  What are you modeling?

Do you cringe when you look in the mirror or step on the scales?  Do you ever say unkind things about yourself?  Do you have a hard time accepting a compliment?

Well, do you? 

Look around, and see the faces that are taking their clues from you.  Children are our mirrors. 

Can you help your daughters, sisters, friends, nieces to be comfortable in their skin, by showing them that your are comfortable in yours?

What are you modeling?  Guess who's watching?

Linda Garner

Friday, October 10, 2014

Being Positive about Misbehavior

Our young grandchildren and their parents have been living at our house for the past year. It's been fun to have them there, and great to have the extra time with them.

Sometimes the children get caught up in activities and don't think of the consequences.

One afternoon they picked up walnuts and began to throw them at the white cinder block wall. They laughed and had a lot of fun. Soon the wall was covered with black splats.

I talked to the kids about how the wall looked. They agreed that it didn't look good. I got out the bucket of paint, and they covered the wall.

The splats were still there. That paint didn't work. Off to the hardware store to get some better paint.

This time the paint covered. The girls had fun painting. I don't think they'll use the wall for target practice again.

There was no need for shaming or criticism. The girls learned the lesson they needed to learn and corrected their mistakes, so all was well.

No Negativity necessary.

In fact, the child's self esteem is enhanced in a situation like this because they were able to solve their problem in a positive way.

Build you child's self esteem. Be positive and solution focused with them.

Thursday, October 2, 2014

Build Your Child's Self Esteem

What's Your Self-Esteem Booster for your child?

Take a little time each day to watch the way you talk to your kids. 

*What do you say to them when they share a problem?
*How do you react when they tell you things?
*Look at the ways they are trying to solve their problems.
*Can you see the way they view the world? Take a peek at the world from their eyes.

Statements such as:
*That was a very thoughtful way to handle that.
*Looks like you really spent some time thinking about that.
*What a great job you've done!
*How do you feel about your hard work?
help a child look at their own process and feel encouraged about their actions.

Do take time to acknowledge your child's strengths. They are you for such a short time.

Wednesday, October 1, 2014

You Don't Have to Try So Hard

When we did we decide that we had to measure up to some unwritten standards?  Who told us?

As girls and women we have a lot to live up to.  Are we good enough?  Are we beautiful enough? Are we thin enough? Do we wear the right clothes?  The right makeup?

Will they like us?

Why all the shoulds? Isn't it time we give each other permission to be ourselves?

Click here for a different message.  Go ahead click it. You'll be glad you did.  Then pass it on.

After you watch this beautiful video mark you calendar for Oct 18.  Bring your daughters, your sisters, your friends to the American Fork Library and celebrate self worth with us.

Linda Garner


Monday, September 29, 2014

Permission Granted

Why do girls sometimes have trouble understanding their worth?  Why do girls sometimes attach their worth to their physical appearance?  Why do girls worry about being fat?  Why do girls sometimes hide their smartness?

How many girls struggle with eating disorders?  How many girls think they are not good enough?  How many girls would like to be invisible?  How many girls have been hurt by those who should have protected them? How many girls feel unsafe, unprotected, unloved, or uncherished?

How deep are the scars of abuse?  How long does healing take? Can there be healing without safety?

How can we empower girls to be who they were meant to be?  How can we empower girls to take control of their own bodies?  How can we teach healthy self image?  How can we model it?

How can we learn to accept ourselves and others.  How can we help each other to feel comfortable in our own skin?

On October 18, Brandilyn and I will join Haley Hatch Freeman and Lori Nawyn in a celebration of self-worth as they launch their new book From Head to Tummy at the American Fork Library.  We will be signing Some Secrets Hurt and they will be signing From Head to Tummy. Join us from
3:30 to 5:30.  You will be able to buy books there.  There will be treats, door prizes, and other fun stuff.

Isn't it about time that we gave our girls permission to be themselves.

Linda Garner