Friday, March 27, 2009

Coming out of the Closet because of Those Wicked, Wicked Ting Tings – don’t worry mom, its not what you think

Every morning (okay, honestly I average three out of seven) I get on my faithful treadmill plug in my ipod and get my exercisin’ done. I have a list of songs that start out in a slow beat and quicken until I am at a full speed run.

One of my favorite songs to start running to is a song by the Ting Tings called That’s not my Name. It’s very catchy and I often find myself singing it during the day while I clean my kitchen. And singing it to my kids when they are all tucked into bed at night and calling me for that third glass of milk. And… singing it to strangers in the library when they ask me if I forgot to pay the fine for that one overdue book. Which really is my name, but…beside the point.

Why do I bring up the Ting Tings and their evil Not My Name song? Well, because Scarlet Knight is not my real name. I’ve been using it as a pen name.

It all has to do with this scary stalker from high school. He would follow me on my dates and you know… and many numerous other things that may give you nightmares if I were to tell you. Yeah, a little unbalanced.

Because of that, I haven’t felt the desire to use my real name.

Unfortunately, it becomes confusing when I go to conferences and try to network with other writers, because I am embarrassed when I have to say, “Hi, my name is Ima Writer, but you might know me as Scarlet.” Plus if I go by Scarlet and somebody calls me by name, I might totally ignore them! “I think he’s talking to you.” (Please see the Simpson's Cape Feare episode. See the attached link). http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vmsuYeztVbs

So, I have been seriously debating. Scarlet Knight is a very cool name, and my husband helped me pick it out (he’s so cute). It would also make a great name for a wicked rock band or say…a college football team. Not bad, I think. It would look so cool on a red covered book in silver or gold writing. I can totally visualize it.

Plus, when I make mistakes or wrote something stupid on someone else’s blog (hello…which I do all the time), they would know who I am – the real insecure me, and that would be….terrible. I’d have to eat a box full of chocolate bars from Costco just to feel better about myself. And run twice as long listening to the Ting Tings taunt me about their name. Those wicked musicians with music that I love too much. * mumbling under my breath *

Of course my neighbors all agreed. They like the name Foxy Candy and think I should use that as a pen name. I told them no – no more pen names for me.

So there you go, the debate raging inside my head.

Would it be so bad for me to come out and say, “Hey, my name is Carolyn and I’m a writer.”

Crap…

So hey… my real name is Carolyn, and I’m a writer. =) But you can call me C. Vawdrey for short.

Thanks for understanding and still come see me on the blog, even though Carolyn isn’t quite as rockin’ as Scarlet (not on paper anyway).

See mom, I told you it wouldn’t be that bad.

17 comments:

Carolyn V. said...

I was kidding, you can call me Carolyn ;)

LexiconLuvr said...

Nice to meet you, Carolyn V. =]

Carolyn V. said...

Good to meet you too.

(Hey, do you want me to bring cookies to our next critique group? Kind of as a get to know you party?)

Linda Garner said...

Carolyn. Catchy isn't it. You're so brave, Carolyn. Rock On! Love ya, LG

Carolyn V. said...

Thanks Linda =) You're a great support. Let's hope this is the right thing to do!

Clint Johnson said...

So Carolyn, when I respond to you today on my blog, am I to respond to Carolyn or Scarlet Knight? It would just be unchivalrous of me not to ask.

If you want, I can change your profile for you on my site. Just let me know what you prefer. Until you do, I'll keep using Scarlet Knight, just to make sure I don't do something presumptuous.

Carolyn V. said...

Wow Clint, can you do that? You can go ahead and change it to Carolyn. Why not, I'm jumping in feet first (hope I'm not up to my waist). It was very nice of you to ask first. Thanks =)

Annette Lyon said...

You're right--I wouldn't have known you as anything but Scarlet. (WAY cool pen name, though.)

Carolyn V. said...

Thanks Annette! =) I guess this is the right choice. And you're right, Scarlet Knight was a great name. (why weren't my parents on to that?) j/k

Carolyn V. said...

Mom, I promise I was just kidding! I love ya! =)

Weston Elliott said...

I write under a pen name, but I almost cheat - the first name of my pen name is actually my maiden name. I figure that way if anyone calls me that when my back is turned, I'll answer them.

Peay Family said...

Is the picture really you?? :) just kidding! hehehe Now that song's in my head!

Carolyn V. said...

Weston, what a great idea! I should have talked to you before I came out with my full name. No, I’m happy I did it. Now when people call me by name, I’ll actually respond to them. Win/win I say.

Rachel, yeah the pictures me...I had to hide that enormous zit somehow. hee hee

LDS_Publisher said...

Hi. Cool site. "Scarlet Knight" won a prize on the LDS Publisher blog. I assume that's you, Carolyn V. Click here to claim it.

Carolyn V. said...

I'm a winner!!! Whoo hoo. Take that Frank Sinatra!

Chas Hathaway said...

That's okay. I don't use a pen name for myself, but for safety, my wife prefers that on my blog I don't use the kids names. I didn't want to make up realistic sounding names for them, because I knew that would confuse friends, so I use their nick-names.

So according to my blog, my family consists of me (Chas), Jenni, Lunch Bucket, and Tootles.

I did write a post once on a day that I was especially frustrated about all the silly safety precautions that are unfortunately necessary. Here it is:

http://chas.willowrise.com/?p=113

By the time I finished the post, I felt much better.

- Chas

Carolyn V. said...

Very wise! I don't use my children's names either. BTW, Awesome names for you kids!