"Your success or failures in life will not be decided by the number of setbacks you encounter, but rather how you react to them. We cannot change our past, we cannot change the fact that people will act a certain way and we cannot change the inevitable. Life is 10 percent what happens to us and 90 percent how we react to it." Doug Westmoreland
This quote came to me this morning in an email. I don't know who Doug Westmoreland is, but his quote is spot on today, for I am dealing with the pain of a broken agreement, and the shock of twisted blame.
I know that everyone has setbacks, but sometimes it would be nice to get a break. I'm not a "why me" sort of person, but...is it okay if I whine for a minute. Enough is enough. Isn't it?
Yeah, I had another setback. I lost ground, I lost a friend, and in the end I was blamed for things I couldn't control. I've seen this before, but I still don't get it. Why would someone who didn't keep their committments blame me, when their interest fades?
Does blaming me make it easier to walk away? Does whining make it easier for me to pick up the pieces and move on? The word "integrity" comes to mind. Does whining compromise my integrity?
My disappointment is deep, but I will move on. According to Doug, disappointment is only 10%. Moving on is 90%.
Moving on stinks, but it's really my only option. Whining helps a little, but not that much. How do you deal with disappointment? I welcome suggestions.
Picking up pieces.