Tuesday, May 5, 2009

What Do You Say When You Talk to Yourself?

What do you say when you talk to yourself? Isn’t that a great question? Are you your own best friend, or your own worst enemy? Do you tear yourself down or do your build yourself up? Is your self talk encouraging and affirming, or is it negative and depressing?

Years ago I read a book with that exact title, What Do You Say When You Talk To Yourself. It’s an old book, but worth tracking down. It’s a fascinating read, full of information about self talk.

With all the negative and sometimes scary news in the world today, we need a voice of hope. We need to hear something positive and encouraging every day. Where are we going to go to hear that message? Maybe you can get it from the books you read and the music you listen to. Maybe you can get it at church. Maybe you’re lucky enough to have a friend with a positive voice.

What if you could be that friend? What if you could have a positive voice in your head, and the voice was your own? How would it change your life if you could say to yourself the things you wish others would say to you? The price is right and the words could be tailor-made to fit your needs. The voice would be familiar even if the words are new. The language would be the language of your heart spoken in your mother tongue.

What might your inner voice say to you if it was speaking from a place of hope and encouragement? Why not make a list? Why not start it today? You might include thoughts like: I am amazing. I am powerful. I am making good choices. I know who I am. I love myself. I am safe. I love my body. I love who I am. I have great ideas. I believe in myself. I trust myself. I am showing up for myself. I am confident. I am hopeful.

Those encouraging thoughts could also be about the world we live in. This is a great world we live in. Amazing opportunites are everywhere. The earth is full and rich. The earth is abundant. There is enough abundance for everyone. Abundance is coming to me. The world is a safe and inviting place. I am loved and supported. I am valued. I am protected. People support me. People show-up for me.

The thoughts we think are very powerful. If we think scarcity, we get scarcity. If we think abundance, we get abundance. If we think fear, we get frightened. We get more of what we focus our mind and our attention on. How much of our reality is controlled by our thoughts? Good question. Perhaps the answer is within you.

What do you say when you talk to yourself?

Linda Garner

3 comments:

Carolyn V. said...

That is so weird... I had that thought twice this week.

Sometimes I have to be nudged over and over before I realize I'd better do it!


I'd better get busy and write myself a pep-talk to read to myself in the mornings.
Thanks Linda!

Anonymous said...

I'm the first to admit that my self and I don't talk nice to each other. That needs to change.

One thing I'm grateful for, even when my self and I fight, you're always wonderful. You'll never know how grateful I am to you. XOXO

Anonymous said...

99.4% of the time, I'm laughing at myself for something dippy I've just done! What else can you do when you just lost your cell phone, even though you havem't moved out of the chair you've been sitting on since the last time you used it. Or, when you tell your short one to watch out and don't trip over that, then turn around and trip over that yourself?