Thursday, July 1, 2010

Learning you're a Loser

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What do you do when you lose? Point fingers, throw a temper tantrum, or do you try to get better?

I heard on the radio this week about a jr. sports team where they didn’t take score of the game. That way, no one would have his or her feelings hurt and no one would be called “loser”.

I found it very interesting.

Not that I would want people to be called loser, but I think losing builds character. People learn how to cope with one another, even when they feel bad about the way they have performed. They learn to be gracious winners, good sportsman or sometimes that they are jerks when they win and need to learn to be a little more humble.

The same thing goes for writing. We write, we get critiqued, we get rejected, we quit or we improve and start writing again. But this time, we learn what we are doing wrong in the craft and build upon that. See? Character building.

I just think losing gives me the drive to try harder, to improve myself to be the best I can. If I lose, I hope I’ll try again (Yeah, my mom had this try, try again rule in our house. I guess it stuck with me).

So the next time someone gives you that good old finger and thumb on the forehead, remember, it’s a good thing. It just means you are getting better and better. Sweet!

Have a great week guys, if you don’t hear from me much in the blog world, it’s because I’m using my super powers to conquer the pile of laundry overtaking my basement (I’m a little scared)!

JFYI: I’m going to start posting the same post from my personal blog as my group blog (at least through the summer). It just gives me more time to write. And I love the writing! =D


L.T. Elliot said...

Great point, Carolyn. We can always use our mistakes and turn them into victories. =]

Vicki Rocho said...

I understand the thought behind not keeping score, I do. But this is like sending your work out to a crit group and having them doodle hearts, flowers, and rainbows in the margins. It doesn't do anyone any good!

lotusgirl said...

Some of the things we push for to protect our kids feelings also makes them weak. Everyone gets a ribbon just for participating. It devalues getting a ribbon. No one wins so you won't have a loser. Wow. It's good to learn to lose. It's a skill like anything else.

Whenever I've been critiqued, I tell myself before I review what the critter has said that they are trying to help me get better. Sometimes it hard to hear criticism, but if we take it to heart and evaluate it against what we know then it will help us be better writers.