Monday, March 28, 2011

Why Do Bad Things Happen to Good People?

I have a dear friend whose wife has just been diagnosed with breast cancer. As he is sobbing his story out to me, I feel a heaviness of heart. This lady is a wonderful individual–fun, happy, upbeat, a great artist, supportive of her husband. In short, she’s a good person. How sad that this couple is faced with a heart-ache like this.
So, as we’re talking, I’m thinking of several other friends who have had breast cancer that is in remission now. The prognosis is good. But that’s still doesn’t take away the surgeries she’ll go through and all the medical treatment that she’ll probably have. In short, it’s a life-consuming, painful, scary process.
We continue to talk about this life-and-death situation, and I’m saddened. What can I do to support this couple? First, I can let them know my faith and prayers are with them through this trial. I can be there to listen when either of them needs to talk. I can take send flowers and take in meals. We can talk about community resources, like a run for cancer. But I feel helpless to give them real support. What can I really do?
I’m sure there are those of you who have been through a devastating trial like this. Give me some suggestions of ways I can be supportive. I’m open to your advice.
Thanks for listening. I’m just very sad today.


Linda Garner said...

So sorry, Christy. It is painful to watch dear friends suffer. Do for them exactly what you would want someone to do for you if the situation was reversed. You can't go wrong. Love, LG

Carolyn V said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend Christy. Although I have not had the trial of cancer, we have had some serious experiences here. The number one thing that helped me was having someone to listen to me sort my feelings and thoughts out. <3